Two intermediate appellate courts in Ohio have ruled in custody disputes involving lesbian mothers. In one, In the Matter of J.D.F., a minor child, 2008-Ohio-2793, 2008 Westlaw 2350253, from Franklin County on June 18, the court refused to set aside a joint custody agreement that the birth mother sought to avoid after breaking up with her partner. In the other, Page v. Page, 2008-Ohio-3011, 2008 Westlaw 2469176, from Clark County on June 20, the court upheld a trial judge’s decision to switch custody from the lesbian mother to her ex-husband, based on the court’s determination of the best interests of the children.
In the Franklin County case, the couple, identified by the court as D.F. and T.F., had a child together in 1997 as a result of anonymous donor insemination with D.F. as the birth mother. When the child was four years old, the women submitted a statement, called an "Agreed Entry," to the local domestic relations court, under which they agreed to "co-custodial status" of their child, and that should any future dispute arise, neither could rely upon any biological or legal connection to the child to gain any advantage over the other, according to the court of appeals opinion by Judge Peggy Bryant. This Agreed Entry stated that D.F. and T.F. were to be treated legally as equal parents of the child, "the same as they would be treated under the law if they were any other two unmarried parents of a child."
Three years later, D.F. and T.F. ended their relationship, and T.F. filed a motion for contempt with the domestic relations court, complaining that D.F. was refusing to permit visitation with the child. The trial judge appointed a "guardian ad litem" for the child, who recommended that D.F. be allowed to visit with the child. D.F. filed a motion for a declaratory judgment, seeking to have the court declare that the "Agreed Entry" was null and void. The trial court referred this motion to a magistrate for an advisory ruling. The magistrate concluded that T.F. was a suitable person to have visitation rights and that the Agreed Entry was an enforceable court order. The trial judge adopted the magistrate’s decision, and denied D.F.’s motion for a declaratory judgment, ordering that T.F. be allowed visitation with the child.
D.F. appealed to the court of appeals, which refused to rule on the merits of the appeal, finding that a motion for declaratory judgment was an inappropriate procedural device to raise the issue. According to Judge Brady, the motion was really an attempt to attack the validity of the Agreed Entry, which could only have been done by appealing the domestic relations court’s original order approving it within a short period of time after the order was made. Ultimately, the court of appeals decided that the trial judge should have dismissed the motion for declaratory judgment rather than ruling on the merits and denying it – resulting in the same outcome. The result is that the trial court’s order adopting the magistrate’s conclusion that T.F. should have visitation rights with the child stands.
The Clark County case is a more traditional custody dispute between a lesbian mother and her ex-husband. The Pages were divorced in 2000, and the domestic relations court then ordered "shared parenting" between the parents of their two sons, age 8 and 6. Two years later, the mother was designated residential parent of both boys by agreement of the parties, and the father was granted visitation rights and ordered to pay child support. In 2006, the father moved to be designated residential parent, claiming that circumstances had changed justifying a reconsideration by the court of the best interests of the children.
The changed circumstances were that the mother had become romantically involved with a woman from West Virginia, had a commitment ceremony with her, and on very little notice moved with the two boys to live with her partner in West Virginia. When father filed his motion seeking a change of residential custody, the boys were 14 and 12, and the domestic relations judge found based on the hearing record that the boys had "a poor relationship" with their mother and her partner.
Further, the court found that the mother’s partner "has not developed the social skills necessary to enable her to effectively interact with young men of this age." Both boys had been in counseling since the women established their relationship, the older for "anger management issues" and the younger for "depression issues." The domestic relations judge concluded, "The credible evidence in this case suggests that both of the children’s issues for which they were in counseling were primarily a result of the environment in which they were living at their mother’s."
The trial judge concluded that these circumstances, taken together, were a substantial enough change in circumstances to warrant reconsidering the custody award, and to justify awarding residential custody to the father.
First addressing the question whether this was a substantial enough change of circumstances to make it appropriate to reconsider the earlier custody order, Judge Thomas J. Grady wrote for the court of appeals, "A parent’s conduct in engaging in a homosexual relationship with another, consenting adult has no relevance to allocation of parental rights and responsibilities, absent proof that the parent’s relationship presently has an adverse collateral impact on the hcild or children involved.. . . There was competent, credible evidence presented to the domestic relations court that, as a collateral result of [the mother’s] relationship with [her partner], including [her partner’s] conduct, both [boys] have experienced personality development disorders that are neither slight nor inconsequential." Thus, the court of appeals found no abuse of discretion in the domestic relations court’s determination of a substantial change in circumstances.
Turning to the issue of "best interest of the child" which will determine which legal parent gets residential custody when it is disputed between them, Judge Grady noted that "the domestic relations court must find that modification is necessary to serve the best interests of the child and that the harm likely to be caused the child by a change of environment is outweighed by the resulting advantages" if a custody order is to be modified. Grady noted that the relevant statute also requires the court to interview the children to determine their preferences. In this case, both boys expressed the wish to live with their father, although the trial judge concluded that only the older boy was really mature enough to make such a choice.
The domestic relations court found that the boys had a good relationship with their father and their paternal grandmother, with whom their father was living, but that their mother "has become unable to maintain a positive relationship with her two children," complicated by the "relatively poor relationship" between the children and their mother’s partner. The court found that the mother had failed to adapt to the needs of her children as they grew older, and that the boys’ need for psychological counseling was a function of their home environment. The court expressed particular concern for the younger boy, finding that if he were "not removed from this environment, his depression will most likely worsen and his development will be stalled even greater than it already has been."
The domestic relations court resolved the best interest determination against the mother, and the court of appeals found that this was not an abuse of discretion, concluding, "Both boys are in a very important, formative phase of their development. For that reason, and on this record, the court could reasonably find that it is in their best interest that they live with [the father], and that the advantages to them of that change outweighs any apparent harm they might experience."
The mother had raised an additional argument, pointing out that the domestic relations court had relied on evidence that the younger son’s depression was due in part to his inability to make friends at school, which was attributed to local social disapproval of his mother’s same-sex relationship. She argued that allowing this to affect the decision violated her constitutional right to equal protection of the law.
Judge Grady acknowledged that the mother had a constitutional liberty interest in the custody of her sons. However, said the court, this interest is not absolute, and it rejected the mother’s attempt to invoke Palmore v. Sidoti, 466 U.S. 429, a 1984 U.S. Supreme Court case that ruled that social prejudice or disapproval may not be the basis of a custody decision. That case involved a Florida court’s decision to change custody after the mother entered into an interracial marriage, which the court found would disadvantage her children due to community disapproval.
Judge Grady found this case distinguishable from the Palmore case. "Unlike in Palmore," he wrote, "there is competent, credible evidence of a present and adverse collateral consequence to [the boys] arising from the fact on which the alleged classification is predicated, their mother’s same-sex relationship. Any protection afforded that alleged classification by the Equal Protection Clause cannot likewise shield that collateral consequence from a remedy the state is authorized to enforce in order to correct it. And, the state, in its role as parens patriae of children whose care, maintenance, and support are at issue in actions for divorce, has a legitimate interest in correcting, or at least avoiding, a present and adverse collateral consequence to the parties’ children that the court’s prior order created."
Judge Grady emphasized that peer pressures contributing to the younger child’s depression "were not the sole or primary reason" for the custody modification, which was mainly due to the mother’s "poor interpersonal relationship" with both boys and the likelihood their situation would improve if they were living with their father. The court concluded that the mother "cannot shield herself or the rights she was previously awarded from the court’s power to modify its prior order for these causes because she is engaged in a same-sex relationship from which those causes flow."